How to write a moving eulogy

Writing and delivering a eulogy can be a daunting task.

Not only are you already mourning the loss of a loved one, but you also need to contend with the pressure of saying the right things, then also getting up in front of a crowd of people you know to deliver it.

You've most likely been asked to deliver the eulogy as you had a meaningful connection with the person who’s passed and have stories and memories to share that will provide comfort to others.

In this guide, we’ll walk you through how to write a heartfelt eulogy, what to include, and how to deliver it with confidence and care.

A eulogy is a short 5 to 10 minute speech delivered during a funeral or memorial service. It reflects on the life, character, and legacy of the person who has passed away. A eulogy can be solemn, uplifting, humorous, or deeply emotional, depending on the tone of the service and the personality of the deceased.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to writing a eulogy. Each one is as unique as the person it honours.

How to write a eulogy: step-by-step

Writing a eulogy begins with reflection. Here are some helpful steps to guide you:

1. Gather stories and memories

Speak with family and friends to collect anecdotes and memories. These can help you identify a theme or narrative that ties the eulogy together.

2. Highlight key life moments

Include significant events such as:

• Family milestones (marriage, children, grandchildren)

• Career achievements

• Travel experiences

• Community involvement or volunteer work

3. Reflect on relationships

Talk about the person’s role in the lives of others—whether as a parent, sibling, friend, mentor, or colleague.

4. Share their passions

Mention hobbies, interests, and quirks that made them unique. Did they love gardening, cooking, music, or sport? Were they part of a local club or church?

5. Speak from the heart

Include your personal connection. Share moments that made you laugh, cry, or feel inspired. Your perspective adds authenticity and warmth.

What to include in a eulogy

A well-written eulogy often includes:

• A brief introduction and expression of sympathy

• A chronological or thematic overview of the person’s life

• Personal stories and reflections

• A closing message of love, remembrance, or hope

Remember: a eulogy doesn’t need to be perfect, it just needs to be sincere.

Tips for Delivering a Eulogy

Public speaking during a time of grief can be challenging. Here are some tips to help:

• Practice: Time yourself and aim for 5–10 minutes.

• Get feedback: Share your draft with others who knew the person.

• Speak slowly: Breathe, pause when needed, and speak clearly.

• Bring notes: It’s okay to read from a printed copy.

• Be kind to yourself: Emotions may surface—take your time.

Writing a eulogy is a powerful way to honour someone’s life and legacy. Whether you’re writing for a parent, friend, or colleague, your words can bring comfort and connection to those who are grieving.

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